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Today’s post is inspired by a recent coaching conversation I had. We’re gonna talk about what clearly manifesting a soulmate is, how to do it, why you should be clear about it, and what happens when you are clear about it 🙂
While soulmates can mean many different types of relationships (best friends, family members, pets, etc.), today we are talking about your romantic life partner.
This post is for you if:
You are in your 30s or 40s, are single, and are looking for your romantic life partner
You’re tired of going on bad dates with people who are unsure of themselves
You’ve tried working on this in therapy or in another spiritual group, to no avail
You’re ready to clearly manifest the partner of your dreams
You’re willing to try something new
Many of these suggestions come from the book, The Soulmate Secret by Arielle Ford (great read, and highly recommend!)
Why You Should Claim Your Desires
If we you not claiming what we really want, the universe can’t help you find it, because you are sending out mixed signals. Claiming your desires takes a lot of soul searching, as well as experience.
Many spiritual teachings say that desires equal suffering.
I disagree. Desires + attachments, addictions, longings, cravings, and/or neediness - create suffering.
But desires on their own are your soul’s whispers for a new direction for you to grow in consciousness.
Why Should You Be Clear About Manifesting Your Soulmate
When you are unclear about what you want, you set an unclear intention into motion, and then you attract partners who are also unclear about what they want, which makes dating confusing.
Dating is already confusing. The older you get, the more complicated it can be. Some people have been divorced, some people have children already, some people have aging parents, lots of us have emotional baggage, etc.
If you are clear about what you want, your must-haves, and your preferences, then you can easily navigate through the dating world, with ease and grace. You can trust that you can have what you want, and that the more clear you are about what you want, the more you manifest people who are closer to what you want as well.
It’s way more fun to date people who want what you want, versus people who don’t.
Let’s Play a Game of “Sitting Across the Table”
Let’s say you’re sitting across the table from a date who says, “I never want to get married, I only want a long-term relationship”.
Do you feel okay with that? Would you also be happy with a long-term relationship and not marriage? If you are unsure about what you want, and you already like them, it’s possible that you’ll be influenced by the other person’s preferences. Let’s say deep down you really do want marriage, and this person that you are starting to like doesn’t… if you’re not clear about what you want, you could be headed for Resentment City - a land where you don’t get what you want.
Let’s say they say, “I 100% want to get married. Like not even 99%. I’m 100% sure.” And let’s say you 100% don’t want to get married. If both parties are clear, then we don’t have a match. No harm done.
And if you say these things clearly, the right person will say, “Yeah, me too!” There’s no convincing, there’s no discussion, there’s no need! How refreshing, right?
You should never have to settle on your basic desires in a relationship…
Being clear about what you want helps you waste less time with people who don’t want what you want, and it opens your life up to people who do want what you want.
A Note on Children
As we get older, inevitably the question of having children comes up more and more. Some people already have children, some do not. Some people want children, some do not. It’s a deeply personal choice.
Some people are fully okay being step parents but not biological parents, some will want adoption, some want to do medically assisted conception if need be… there’s so many options out there.
I hear a lot of, “If the right person comes, I’m open to having children.” Or, “If they’re open, I’m open.”
These are conditional statements, and as such, they are not clear. First of all, by saying “if”, you’re not trusting the right person & situation is coming. And secondly, you are unintentionally placing the decision on the other person to help you decide. It’s a big decision, and it’s unfair to do that. Now we’re in Convince Me City, which takes you straight back to Resentment City.
A clear statement would look like – “I absolutely want to have children.” (and be clear about is it step children, biological children, adopted children, etc.) Or, “I absolutely do not want children.”
Claim your desires now, and everything else gets cleared up.
How do you do this? Ask your soul!! It knows the answers.
But being unclear, waiting for the universe to show you proof, waiting for the other person to decide, or making conditional statements, will not help you get what you want.
Let’s move on to how-to-do-this!!!
How to Clearly Manifest Your Soulmate
#1. Make a list. Make a list of 20 things that you want in a partner.
Some Rules of Thumb:
Focus on character traits, qualities, and values, versus external stuff like looks, job, car, or salary. Their looks are not going to get you through tough life or relationship challenges, and all of those things are changeable over time.
Include what you’d want to be doing in your free time with them. Do you like nature, hiking, and camping? Do you like live music and concerts? Do you like movies, cooking, and staying in? How would you like to spend your time with this person?
You may also want to include where they live - “lives within x miles of me or is willing to move” (if you want to cohabitate with your partner).
Be clear that they are single, and the same sexual orientation as you. The last thing you’d want is to manifest someone taken, or who is a different sexual orientation than you, and therefore is unavailable…
I’m including my list so you have an example:
Kind
Compassionate
Loves dogs (I have a dog, and a dog-sitting business!)
Affectionate
Emotionally mature & safe
Great communicator & a good listener
Great sense of humor
Financially abundant/secure
Loves nature/hiking/camping
Strong sense of purpose - knows his unique soul purpose and is already in it now
Honest
Fun
Attractive
Great physical & sexual chemistry
Easygoing
My favorite person & best friend ⭐
Grateful
Self-aware, committed to his own spiritual growth, has his own daily spiritual practice (meditates) // is a spiritual equal to me // is open to my spiritual beliefs
Wants marriage and 3 babies
Live within 5 miles of East Nashville, or is willing to move
Is single, male, and heterosexual
More Tips & Tricks
#2. Practice Visualizing This Daily. The more you visualize what this partnership would feel like, the more your subconscious mind will help you look for solutions to fulfill this request. Also, it will train your nervous system to get used to having a partner in your life.
#3. Make Prayers or Affirmations. I’ve been more into prayers lately, it makes me feel like I am surrendering to God’s plan and I can offload all my manifestations and worries over. I feel more supported that way. But, affirmations can be helpful too - ex. “I now create a wonderful, harmonious romantic relationship with my life partner.” You decide what resonates with you.
#4. Clear Space In Your House. Is there enough room for another person to coexist or cohabitate? Do they have space to sleep and places to put their stuff? Clear out any old stuff from ex’s. I do a general decluttering of my house every 6 months or so, just to refresh the space and it really lifts the energy!
#5. Clear Out Any Attachments to Ex’s. If you are still pining over an ex, or emotionally attached in some way, you are blocking yourself from receiving a new partner. Once you clear your attachments, your energy can open up to receive new things!
#6. Clear Out Your Limiting Beliefs. It is never too late to find your one! And yes you are worthy! My free e-book can help you with this. Also, heal your inner child.
#7. Forgive Yourself & Your Ex’s. Forgive yourself and your ex’s for any past mistakes or hurts. Remember that they are humans and humans accidentally hurt each other all the time. Thank them for the lessons. You may want to write them a letter with all your hurts (don’t send this please!) and have them write you back with messages from their Highest Self. You might see that they actually wish good things for you 🙂
#8. Surrender. This might be the most important step of it all (after you’ve claimed your desires and gotten clear). Surrender all of your desires, manifestations, longings, cravings, addictions, attachments over to the universe. Trust that anything that needs to be healed before your soulmate comes will come up and be cleared when necessary. Trust you can have what you want and that it already exists. Trust the universe is working its magic. Release the need to know the how, when, or where of it all. Read this post on how to surrender.
#9. Trust the Timing of Your Life. The ego wants things now, but remember some things might need to happen between now and when you meet your romantic partner that you might not know about. For example, maybe they might need to leave a relationship or move to your town. Trust that your timing is perfect and you are right in step with it.
#10. Have Fun!!!! Your life was meant to be fun now, with or without a partner! Do things you love. Make joy your priority. Spend time with uplifting people. Your partner will not only want that for you, but they will be much more attracted to you if you are a joyful person!
#11. Remember… Someone is manifesting you too!!! You are Love Incarnate. This person is here to share your completeness with, not to complete you. But they are looking for you as well!!! Which is so cool! That’s how loving and good at relationships you are 🙂
What Happens When You Follow These Steps?
You attract and create the best romantic relationship of your life 🙂…
And if you live in Nashville, and decide to get married, hire me to be your wedding officiant :)
I hope this post gives you some clarity on how to clearly manifest your partner, why you should claim your desires and be clear about it, and what happens when you do!
If this was helpful, please leave me a comment!
If you’d like to go deeper, please sign up for personal coaching/mentoring here. I have lots of different packages, so we can find the right one for you!
Lots of love! Talk soon!
Angeli
“When deep down in the core of your being you believe that your soul mate exists, there is no limit to the ways he or she (or they) can enter your life.” ~ Arielle Ford
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