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Today’s post is about how to heal your feminine energy (and attract like no other!)
Picture This:
You’ve just been born. You come out of your mama’s vagina and already sense your parents are disappointed in your gender.
That is the story of every girl ever born… (until now)
This Post Is For You If:
You notice that you are in your masculine energy the majority of the time
You feel overworked, exhausted, or lost in your life because you’re are in your masculine energy a LOT
You’ve tried to sit in your feminine energy more, but find you’re not manifesting what you want unless you revert to your masculine ways
You’re tired of not being able to find the right energetic balance for you in work, relationships, or life
You’re willing to learn a new way and make both your feminine and masculine energies work for you
PS - this is useful for you no matter what gender expression you are!!!
PPS - if you want to read about masculine and feminine energies, read this post
Masculine and Feminine Energy: Keeping A Balance
This is one of my favorite topics and has been a common one among spiritual communities. Most of the info I am using for this post can be found in the book, The Bingo Theory: A revolutionary guide to love, life, and relationships, by Mimi Ikonn.
Why Am I Qualified To Talk About This?
Well first off, I am a female with predominantly feminine energy. I grew up in a world and culture that favored masculine energy over feminine energy. I have suffered from sexual trauma and narcissistic abuse at the expense of having a wounded feminine ego and thus attracting a wounded masculine ego.
I know what it is like to have a wounded feminine ego, and I also know what to do in order to heal it.
I’ve been on a mission to heal my own feminine energy, because it’s a big pain point of mine, and because I really want to teach others how to heal and reclaim theirs.
Also, I’ve been trying to find books on this, specifically for dating, and I just haven’t found a good one that calls my name. So I’m writing about this now.
Why Is it Important to Heal Your Feminine Energy?
When you have a wounded feminine ego, your masculine energy cannot be in a healthy balance. We grew up in a world that favored masculinity and masculine energy far above feminine energy. We were taught to use our left brains predominantly and dismiss our right brain talents for intuition, feelings, and creativity.
As such, the feminine energy becomes a shadow, and the masculine energy starts overdoing in order to make up for this. This is the exact imbalance that causes things like illness, burnout, exhaustion, and trouble in relationships.
Also, if you’re looking for your life’s purpose or to do meaningful work, you need a healthy balance of feminine and masculine energy, because your feminine energy is the secret to figuring out what it is you are good at and how you want to express it.
Having an imbalance between your feminine and masculine energies affects your ability to attract and manifest what you truly desire!
If you are imbalanced your energies, you will attract partners who are also imbalanced, and it makes for a really unsavory experience.
Case-in-point. Many of us women were over-masculinized as younger people. When we are more masculine, we attract men who are more feminine. The over-masculinized female then attracts an underdeveloped masculine partner, (and also has to play hunter instead of receiver) and the relationships roles are then dynamically reversed.
What happens is the feminine ends up playing mother or teacher to the masculine son or student, and it’s just not good. It’s not satisfying, and both parties end up resentful. It’s also exhausting being feminine but playing a masculine role. It’s not natural. It also doesn’t make for a lasting and strong relationship.
In short, if your energies are off, it affects every part of your life in unhealthy ways. It’s ideal to try to heal your feminine energy so that you can balance out your masculine and be true to who you really are!
What Is Healing Your Feminine Energy?
Healing your feminine energy is more than recognizing “okay I need to act this way.” For example, feminine energy is full of intuition, feelings, creativity, rest, nurturing, and love. Those are such beautiful qualities! If you are trying to embody this, without true embodiment on the inside (meaning healing the energetic blocks to embodiment), we’re only halfway there.
Like I said, when our masculine energy was favored, it created a shadow for the feminine energy to hide and be wounded.
I’ll tell you a story. The year: 1996. It was the summer Olympics and I had just watched women’s gymnastics. I was so inspired!! We had a gymnastics school in our neighborhood in Brooklyn, NY. It was right next door to the karate dojo. My dad wanted to sign me and my two brothers for karate, and I asked for gymnastics instead. And he said no, I want you to do karate. He told the teacher he wanted me to be (flexes his biceps) “strong“.
So I got the message that being strong was desirable to my dad and to men in general.
Cue the start of my tomboy-ness. Just to clarify, I was an incredible athlete. I was good at everything I tried, including karate, basketball, soccer, volleyball, softball, running, field hockey, and juggling (lol). I could pick up anything and be good at it. I’m an incredibly fast learner. I have really high body intelligence. I’m actually in my High School’s Hall of Fame for my Cross Country running accolades.
But getting the message that being strong and masculine was better than being feminine meant the next 25 ish years of my life was heavily run by that. My masculine energy helped me do a bunch of things like graduate from pharmacy school, survive residency, and get a big girl job, but overly relying on it also led to burnout.
Healing your feminine energy is recognizing that there needs to be a balance. Like an inner child, she needs love and attention and support. Maybe she didn’t get that encouragement all those years ago, but now is the time to give this to her. Healing her means she gets to shine, and so does your masculine. Because, at the end of the day, it’s not a competition, it’s a collaboration.
The feminine needs to be supported by the masculine, but the feminine can’t be if both are wounded. Healing the feminine means healing the masculine by proxy, but healing both means making sure they are the best teammates to each other.
How To Heal Your Feminine Energy
I’m gonna walk you through step-by-step what to do so that you too can heal your feminine energy and come back into your true balance. No matter what your gender is, we all have both masculine and feminine energies to varying degrees. This will help you find the balance that is true for you.
Acknowledge your feminine wounds: if you’ve been in unsavory relationships, if you’ve had health challenges, if you’ve felt like your feminine energy has a lot of anger, or sadness, or moroseness for being repressed for so long, honor that. Acknowledge her feelings. Treat her like an inner child and be there for her. The feminine has been suppressed for millennia thanks to the patriarchy.
Release those feelings: Once those feelings have been truly, truly felt, it’s time to release them so that you can make space for new feelings and beliefs.
Comfort her: apologize to her and give her the love and acknowledgement that she needs. Let her know she is needed and vital for success in your life, that you honor, cherish, respect, and love her. She is a Goddess and you worship her.
Reprogram yourself with new beliefs: Once she feels loved again, you want to let her know how she can shine as brightly as she wants, it’s safe to do so, she is equally important to your masculine energy, that they work together to bring you good success in work, life, and relationships.
Let the masculine know they are needed too: There might start to be a war at first between those two energies, because the message was that one was more important than the other. Let your masculine energy know that he is needed too in the right balance, and his job is to support and collaborate with the feminine. It’s teamwork only at this point!
It may take a few rounds of this to really feel like you are back into full balance and true collaboration. Sometimes you have to heal one layer for another one to show up.
As my wise friend Kay says (who is also a gifted energy healer), “It’s catch and release, catch and release.” I couldn’t agree more.
If you need help with healing this side of you, shoot me an email and we can talk about coaching.
What If You Heal Your Feminine Energy?
If you heal your feminine energy, you can feel so much more confident and balanced in yourself. You then realize that yes you can be in your feminine energy and have great relationships, great dating, great opportunities, and great work moments flowing to you, too. Heck, your health would probably improve too!
On a larger scale though, we are healing the relationship between masculine and feminine people on the planet. There has been a lot of abuse, resentment, and hurt feelings between the two. It’s time to heal so that our planet can come back into peace and harmony, as it is meant to!
Mistakes to Avoid
Operating solely out of your masculine energy: ensures that the feminine does not get to shine brightly in the role she’s designed to play.
Ignoring your feminine energy’s feelings: it’s so easy to skip over her feelings because they were never validated when you were younger. Give her the moment she needs to be fully acknowledged, heard, and seen. She will value that!
Continuing to try to “work harder” to get results: it’s all energy at the end of the day, and you get to decide whether working harder or raising your vibration by integrating shadow energies is better for you (I vote integration!)
Failing to recognize when you are overly in your masculine: burnout, exhaustion, frustration, irritability, and signing up for too many things are all signs you are too much in your masculine energy… time to reassess and realign!
Forgetting to give your feminine energy the love she needs: she is a Goddess that lives inside of you. She has been wounded by living in the world we live in. Not honoring her means not honoring yourself, and you want to do that so that you can live your best life and be honored the way you were meant to be, precious!!!
Forgetting to honor your masculine energy too: If you don’t honor your masculine energy too, you’re going to create a shadow here. Reassuring your masculine energy that it can be healthy and fully expressed helps it know that it is needed too!
Summary
I hope this post helps you to find your true balance! Your feminine energy is worthy of feeling healthy, balanced, honored, and revered, just the same as your masculine energy!
I’ll love to hear what miracles flow to you as you strike this balance!
Lots of love,
Angeli
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