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I’ve taken the last 3 weeks or so off from the blog. It was not my plan, nor my intention. But sometimes Spirit has a bigger plan that we can’t see. I used that time to rest and recharge, and do other things like dog sit, coach, and energy heal. And turn 36 years old!! Hehehe.
So today we are going to talk about how to just be.
This post is for you if:
You struggle with feeling worthy of rest
You tend to over-schedule your weekends or trips, or say yes to things you don’t want to do
You feel guilty whenever you take time off
You’ve tried working on this on your own, in therapy, or with the guidance of books, without success
You’re willing to gain a new perspective on this
Why Should We Learn to Just Be?
We grew up in a world and culture of do-do-do, achieve-achieve-achieve, more-more-more. And most of us didn’t really learn how to rest! Nap times and recess are slowly taken out of school curriculums as we get older.
School is busy!! When I think of how much I used to do in a day as a student, it’s like wow, this shit is so fucking busy!!
We’re programmed not to listen to our own bodies (anyone denied a bathroom break?) and follow a curriculum that’s not aligned with our true selves.
Then we take that same mentality into our jobs. We keep going, going, going, until we burn out for a solid ~4 years!! (That was my story 😂)
Learning how to just be means you get to really connect with your own energy, your own wishes, your own desires. Your own thoughts. Your own beliefs. You get to sit with yourself. You can’t hide behind anything - not the plans, not the social life, not the achievements. Learning to be gets you to the core of who you really are. The good, the unhealed, and the opportunities for self-love.
What Is Just Being?
Just being means being present in your own energy. It means emotionally self-regulating without needing to co-regulate others in the process. It means allowing what needs to come up, to come up, and letting go of what needs to move out. It means being able to listen to your body and act accordingly.
Some might think that just being means watching TV. I wouldn’t say that’s just being, because your brain is still working when you watch TV, and you’re not focused on yourself.
Just being means you are still, standing in your truth of who you are and how you are, moment-by-moment, and honoring that.
What If You Learn How to Just Be?
You learn about who you authentically are. And you get to be that version of you more and more often! That’s a win, because you attract relationships that honor that version of you, as well as opportunities, jobs, and heck, your health might even improve, because you are no longer hiding behind old conditioning. I secretly think a lot of disease is rooted in unresolved emotional trauma due to past conditioning.
How to Just Be
There are two main ingredients to just being. The first is presence, the second is worthiness.
Presence: presence allows you to connect authentically to how you are feeling and what your body needs, moment-by-moment. Presence is your connection to the totality of who you really are (your soul) and All-That-Is. When you are present, you are in your personal power. You don’t have to change or do anything. You just have to be.
Presence allows you to rewire your overstimulated nervous system into one of calmness and peace. According to How to Be the Love You Seek by Nicole LePera.
So here are the steps on how to just be.
Step 1: Make It a Practice: You can practice presence by practicing meditation of all kinds - sitting, walking, standing, lying down. Yoga or Tai Chi can be helpful. I also have an Insight Timer full of free meditations to get you started.
Step 2: Practice Presence in Real Life: You can then practice presence in real life - when you pet your dog, or serve your children food, when you have a moment to just focus on your breathing for a bit or tune into your heart.
Step 3: Realize Your Worthiness: Your worthiness can allow you to just be, without feeling guilty about it. A lot of “doing” is born out of unworthiness, because we feel like we have to “do” to be loved. Our beliefs always match our actions. Realizing your worthiness is knowing that it is your true nature, and involves releasing feelings of unworthiness. This is an unlearning process, as I’ll outline below.
Being conditioned in certain ways taught us that our true nature as kids wasn’t lovable or safe. So being who we really were was put to the backburner, and that’s what causes a lack of worthiness. And, in my opinion, lack of worthiness is a huge epidemic.
A story. When I quit my job in 2022, I had burned out so much worse than I could have imagined. I was down for the count for months. Besides writing this blog, all I could do was watch Netflix. I remember when I started a sourdough bakery out of my kitchen with the neighbors, about 10 months after quitting work. Just baking one item on a Monday morning was enough to send me to the couch all day Tuesday. That’s how tired I was!!!
In those moments that I couldn’t work, I felt so guilty. “I should be doing something.” “I should be working.” “I should be making money.” Those were my thoughts at the time. Do you see how guilt always follows “should”?
I had to learn that my worthiness does not come from a paycheck or a fancy job. I am worthy whether I work or not. Money can flow to me whether I work or not. I can surrender to the highest good and all needs are richly met. (Sometimes money has to go down so that you can learn the lessons of that and it can go back up.) I’m still safe.
Where does worthiness come from? Worthiness is your inherent nature. You were born worthy of love and all soul desires. You were born capable of creating the life you want. But somewhere along the way, you get taught that you aren’t really enough, you can’t really have what you want, and that you have to keep being someone you are not in order to gain love and acceptance.
How do you release feelings of unworthiness? Releasing limiting beliefs, healing your inner child, reconciling the different parts of yourself, releasing unconscious vows, and loving the unloved parts of yourself bring you back to worthiness. You can also surrender any unworthiness over to your Creator and see if that helps.
Because if you felt worthy (and this counts for anything, not just rest), you wouldn’t feel guilty. You’d be happy to receive it. You’d understand that rest is a vital part of life.
We all only have a certain number of energy units per day while here on Earth. So how we spend that energy really matters. We all have to rest and recharge in order to be able to use our energy again and again.
What Has Just Being Taught Me?
Just being has taught me to slow down. It has taught me to be really intentional with how I spend my time. It has taught me to make lots and lots of room for rest. I say I’m recovered from burnout, but my body is not the same from before burnout. I don’t have as much energy as I used to. And that’s okay.
It’s taught me not to over-schedule my time, and to be grateful when I do have down time. For example, in between dog sitting gigs, sometimes Rocco and I have a few days to ourselves. It has taught me to savor that time together. I think he really relishes it and looks forward to rekindling our bond. He’s in charge of our bonding 😂 Then we are ready to host our next dogs again, refreshed and renewed 🙂
Same with energy healing. I know I charge a quite a bit for energy healing. And in the middle of sessions, I feel so energized and happy. It’s amazing to watch my clients shift and experience outstanding results. But afterwards, I’m so tired! It’s hard work moving other people’s energy! I know I make it look easy 💁, but I need rest too. So I am honoring that.
And…I’ve finally stopped fighting myself about my prices 😂 That’s worthiness!!! 😂
Wrap-Up
I hope this post reminds you to make space to just be!! You are worthy of rest. You are worthy whether you do or don’t do. You don’t have to do anything to be worthy, except believe it. You can use your presence to gauge where your worthiness is at, and then take steps to deepen and foster it. It’s a process, so please be gentle and kind to yourself.
And when you believe in your worthiness, poof, look how amazing your life becomes! ✨
Do you struggle with just being? Do you over-schedule your time? Do you feel guilty when you rest? Are you on a journey to honor your true worthiness? Where are you at on this journey?
I’d love to hear from you. Let’s start a chat in the comments!
Thank you so much for reading and listening along. It means a lot to me <3
Lots of love,
Angeli
“We must believe we are worthy of rest. We don’t have to earn it. It is our birthright. It is one of our most ancient and primal needs.” ~ Tricia Hersey
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