How to Get the Love You Want 🐾
By Rocco Sivaraman
Greetings beautiful soul and welcome back! ⭐
Today’s post is about how to get the love you want, as written by Rocco Sivaraman (my dog).
This Post is For You If:
You struggle to get the love that you want
You feel frustrated with dating & relationships, because you are not getting the love you want
You’ve tried working on this through therapy or with the guidance of books, without success
You’re tired of not getting the love you want
You’re willing to try something new, through the eyes of a dog
Why is Rocco qualified to write this post? (Rocco is taking over now)
Hello everybody, my name is Rocco Sivaraman and I’m the cutest, patootiest best friend a girl could ask for! I am my Mama’s best boy. I am a friend and lover to everyone I know! Mhmm, mhmm, mhmm - I love every person and dog that I meet 🙂 Eeeeeeee.
I am qualified to write this post because I am a dog which means I know unconditional love. Also, I once had a girlfriend, and her name was Luna. She was a cute, sexy, sassy Husky. I was a great boyfriend to her, very committed. Later, she moved away…
So I have lots of relationship experience…
Why Should You Learn How to Get the Love That You Want?
Because love is the besttttt. It’s so much fun! It’s our true nature, and it feels so so good.
If you don’t learn this, you’ll feel stuck and frustrated in your relationships, you won’t get your needs met, you won’t get to bond fully with your humans (ick!) and you won’t feel very happy overall.
What Is Getting the Love That You Want?
Getting the love that you want means that you get to feel happy and loved and understood in your relationships, which makes them more meaningful and fun! As dogs, we are always communicating with our humans to let them know what we want, what we like, and what we need. And then when we get what we want (belly rubs, treats, walks, the bed 😂) we feel really happy and then our humans feel really happy too!!!!!
How to Get the Love You Want
I am gonna walk you through step-by-step how to get the love you want, so that you can feel better and remain connected to those around you. I use doggy terms, but this still translates to humans.
Step 1: Make eye contact.
Eye contact is SO important! A lot of people think that dogs don’t like it because it looks like a challenge, but for many of us, it’s bonding. I stare at my mom’s eyes all the time. I love when she looks back into mine. We silently gaze into each other’s eyes, and then she tells me how beautiful mine are (which they are!) and it’s sooooo niceeeeee.
Step 2: Always be communicating, lovingly.
Dogs are always, always communicating. We communicate with our bodies. We show our humans what we like by going near things, and we move farther away when we don’t like something. For example, if Mama is rustling open a treat bag, I immediately go running towards her (click click click click with my paws!) - I am ready for a treat now.
If I don’t like something, like water, or getting my nails clipped (Ick! Why??!?) then I try to move away.
Sometimes, you can use your paws to communicate. Like when you want a belly rub, you can paw your human and then turn over and see if they give you one. Just don’t be too pushy, it turns them off.
Or, you can just turn over and put a goofy smile on your face and ask for belly rubs that way - they adore that!!! That one works for me every time :)
Step 3: More snuggling is always better.
I loveeeee to snuggle. I always want more. I never want less, always more. There can never be too much snuggling! I love snuggling on the couch and the bed. I never get tired of snuggles.
Sometimes Mama needs to do other things like work on a computer or do laundry, but I still try to get in there and get my snuggles!
Another thing you can do is snuggle with their clothes. Like when Mama leaves her robe on the couch, I like to sniff it and then sleep on top of it. She is so tickled by this. Give it a try!!!
Step 4: Scooch closer!!
When you love someone, you can show them you love them by getting closer to them. If you love someone and you don’t get close to them, they might not know that you love them. When you think you are close enough, go even closer. And then a little bit more. Then a little bit more.
You basically wanna be in their lap… That’s how they know you love them, and then you can get the love that you want… (physical contact)
Step 5: When in doubt, do a good boy sit.
I’m pretty sure this translates to humans too.
I do my good boy sitz for everything, and I get so much praise and rewards for this! It’s the first trick I ever learned, and it’s the easiest one. Humans go crazy for it!! Suckazzzz. Hehehehe.
If you want treats, or fresh cut veggies, if you want lots of praise and head pats and face rubs, do a good boy sit, I promise it will help!
Step 6: Show them you appreciate what they are doing for you.
I do this by wagging my tail, smiling, or thanking them with my eyes. This shows them that you love and appreciate what they are doing that you like, and that you want more of it. If you encourage people lovingly, they respond well and will do more of that thing.
If you’re mean or mad, like when I want attention and claw Mama’s books and tarot card boxes on the coffee table (Angeli: 🙄), she’ll tell me to get into a “down”, and it’s not as fun…
If you show your human you love and appreciate them, now everybody understands each other and everyone is winning! 🐾
Getting the Love You Want is Giving the Love You Want
Giving and receiving go hand-in-hand. It can be really rewarding to give the love you want too. But just make sure you are receiving as well, it’s equally important! When you’re in a habit of mutual giving and receiving with your human, now we’re really talking.
If You Follow These Steps:
You’ll feel so loved and connected to your human. Your bond will grow. You’ll be best friends every day furever. You’ll feel so happy and satisfied in your relationships. Your human will brag about you to everyone you know. You’ll feel so proud to be their baby. They’ll feel so proud of you. And you’ll have the best love in the whole world!!!!
Mistakes to Avoid
Don’t be too pushy with your paws. Try not to be too negative. Try to focus on what you want, and your human’s best sides (because they ARE the besttttt), and then everyone gets to be happy, safe, and bonded :) Don’t forget to appreciate them. Sooooo important!
Wrap-Up
I hope you enjoyed this post about getting the love you want. Dogs know how to do it. And now you do too!! You got this!
Happy Thursday and lots of love!!
Rocco 🐾 and Angeli 💟
“A true friend leaves paw prints on your heart." by George Eliot
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