Greetings beautiful souls and welcome back! ⭐ and Happy Lion’s Gate! (8/8/24)
Here are my latest offerings:
*NEW*!! My e-course on healing narcissistic abuse for empaths is here! Break the damn cycle, and call in the relationships you want :)
Are you looking for 1:1 help in your relationship life? I help spiritually minded, empathic people ages 35-45, break free from toxic relationship patterns so that they can improve their relationships and love their life!! Book a free discovery call here!
Are you struggling with fertility?? I can help by removing any trapped emotions getting in the way of manifesting your baby! Book an energy healing session with me!
Feeling stuck or unsure? Looking for clarity or a divine message? Book a tarot reading with me!
FREE MEDITATIONS on Insight Timer!!! Check these out :) I update these weekly!
Growth can be painful and lonely. These tools and services are made to help!
I’ve been thinking a lot about communication. Based on some recent events from my own life, including a ghosting, I realize that along with the notion that everything is energy, so is communication.
A little backstory about me… I grew up with non-native English speaking parents, so already there’s a built-in communication barrier there. I struggled in school in English class and writing. I still don’t understand most idioms and have to ask what they mean (lol). I was never told I was a good writer in school. And I always felt lacking in my communication skills, like I’d never be good at it.
It’s a wonder I started publishing online some ~2.5 years ago, lol. But, with repetition, things improve and get easier. I am still on a journey of learning to communicate better in my relationships.
Because, I’ve realized that the quality of your relationships depend on the quality of your communication. And in an effort to enhance this, I learned and wrote a couple of pieces on how to ask for your needs to be met and expressing and receiving appreciation effectively (using non-violent communication) back in January 2024.(feel free to go back and review them).
I have been trying to practice these techniques along the way.
But let’s talk about communication as a vibration.
Everything Carries a Vibration
If you read this newsletter, you probably already know this. Everything in the universe is made of energy and all of it carries its own vibration. Emotions have vibrations, humans have vibrations, the rocks in your garden also have vibrations.
Compatibility Also Carries a Vibration
When we talk about compatibility in relationships, it really does boil down to vibrations. Think of your best, long-time friends and relationships. Doesn’t it feel really easy to talk to them, or stay in touch? Like they speak your language, or get your humor? Alternatively, isn’t it easy to fall out of touch for sometime, and then come back together really easily?
It’s obvious to me even in couples. I can always tell who is meant to stay together by their vibration. If the vibration of each person matches the other, they always stay together! And if their vibration doesn’t match, they end up breaking up. I’ve always had this gift of knowing this, and I’m sharing it with you now 🙂
What about when you outgrow a relationship or friendship? Doesn’t it feel like when you now talk to that person or even think of them, your energy drops? That’s because your vibration is different now due to your own inner growth. So at one point you used to match, and now the vibrations are different, and that’s why it feels much harder to connect with or communicate with that person.
Communication Is No Different
Like I said, we all have a vibe.
When we communicate, we get to choose from two paths: our personality “ego” selves or our authentic, Highest Selves. One energy is going to be mixed with fear, and the other is pure love.
One is from lack of presence, and the other is from pure presence.
When you are in tune with your own energy, you get to communicate from that standpoint. The more authentic you are to your own inner being, the more authentically you can speak. The more authentically you speak, the more you attract what’s in alignment and repel what isn’t.
That means joining your heart and your throat chakras together. But even if you didn’t think about it that way, think about communication compatibility with another person (romantic or otherwise).
Communication Compatibility
If you enjoy how someone communicates with you, the chances are you’re going to want to continue talking to them. And it’s likely because you already have a compatible overall vibration with them.
If you do not enjoy how they communicate, for example, if they ghost, if they can’t state with maturity what their true feelings and needs are, if they can’t return your love, or be consistent, you’re going to be perpetually frustrated, because you’re not compatible with this person.
You could “line up” in every other way seemingly, but if this doesn’t match, it’s not a match.
Compatibility with communication MATTERS. And from that recent ghosting experience, I realize that it’s so super important to me to be with someone who I have communication compatibility with. If you really vibe with somebody, then your communication should, too.
Imagine sitting next to someone for the rest of your life and not being able to talk openly about what’s on your mind, to the depth that you’d like, or even knowing if they’ll get back to you when you message them - for years!!! Imagine raising babies with this person!!!
That would be so frustrating, maddening, and demeaning!
How We Connect To, Relate To, and Understand Each Other Matters
And the way we do this is with communication. Sure, are there times when things don’t warrant a response? Yes, absolutely. Are there times when you simply do understand each other non-verbally? Of course! This is also part of it!
But I believe that consistency is a non-negotiable. If someone cannot be consistent with communication, they are not consistent, period. And it’s going to reflect in other parts of their life.
It’s not just a “them” thing. Because it’s a reflection of a pattern that lives inside of us.
And the work starts inside of us.
If I want consistent, loving communication from others, I must make the commitment to communicate with (or pay attention to) myself first with love, presence, and consistency, And through those actions, I will come to do the same for others, and it will likely be returned to me.
But of course, we can’t just say okay this is what I want to manifest without clearing the old patterns and beliefs that block us.
What is the Root Cause of Ghosting, or Inconsistent Communication?
These patterns develop at a young age in babyhood and childhood. If your parents or caregivers didn’t know how to communicate well, (and most people struggle with this), or they weren’t consistent with how they communicated, then you develop all sorts of ideas about what you can or can’t have when it comes to communication (among other things in relationships as well).
If you felt like the adults in your life left you hanging, were too busy, couldn’t receive your love and return it appropriately, or outright ignored you, then you’ll play those patterns out (with unavailable, non-reciprocal, “hot and cold” relationships) in adulthood until you learn to heal it.
I’ve lived through this pattern a million times, I understand it deeply, and that’s why I specialize in healing it. If you need help with this, please let me know. (Hit reply on your email or set up a call).
Bottom Line
The good news is, it’s all healable and reversible, and you can have whatever it is that your heart desires (as long as you clear out the “junk” that’s blocking you).
But it starts with claiming what you want in your communication life, now. Solid, stable, reliable, satisfying, and aligned communication vibes is what I’m going for.
What communication vibes are you claiming for in your own life?
Thanks so much for reading and listening along! Message me with any questions!
Love,
Angeli
“The essence of communication is intention.” ~ Werner Erhard
What else do you need help with? Send me a message (or email) and I’ll gladly write a post for you!
Did you enjoy this post? Please feel free to share :)
Share this post